Our culture is obsessed with certainty when it comes to love.

We’re told that when we find “the one,” we’ll just know. That real love is easy, instant, effortless, and obvious. There’s no room for doubt, or even unpleasant emotions like frustration, confusion, or sadness. 

So when these feelings inevitably arise, we panic, and assume something’s wrong.

What our culture gets wrong about doubt is that it’s not only normal, but good. And unpleasant emotions are simply part of the human experience; they even show up in strong and healthy relationships.