
How to Listen (And Why It’s so Hard)
Listening is one of the most important skills we can have, but no one really teaches us how to do it. In fact, most of us are taught the opposite. We’re taught to analyze, critique, and debate. We’re taught to quickly assess and categorize what we hear: is this something I agree with or not? Is this good or bad? Right or wrong? That kind of black-and-white thinking shapes the way we move through the world, and it makes real listening very hard.
Because once we’re caught in those categories, fear starts to take over. We instinctively pull away from anything that feels “wrong” or uncomfortable. We start listening for what we don’t like, what we disagree with, instead of actually being present with the person in front of us.
And to me, that’s what listening really is: presence. Not proving anything or fixing or judging. Just being there and being willing to take in what someone is saying.

Taking Responsibility for Our Emotions
In this post, I explore what it really means to take emotional responsibility—and how avoiding our feelings often fuels anxiety, blame, and disconnection. I talk about why sitting with our emotions is so difficult (especially in today’s fast-paced culture), and why developing a relationship with our feelings is one of the most powerful forms of healing. You’ll also find reflective questions to support your own inner work, and an invitation to slow down, turn inward, and meet yourself with compassion.